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Don’t skip ‘dating’ on the way to a relationship
Are you guilty of rushing into relationships without getting to know someone first? One of the biggest mistakes I see women making when dating: Skipping the dating part and going right to a relationship. If you are dating to find a relationship, remember you still need to… date. Slow down and savor the journey of dating.
How would you date differently if you knew your person was coming?
Learn how a mindful approach to dating can transform your journey and lead you to 'The One.' (Hint: You might have to date a lot of ‘Not The Ones’ along the way.)
What reality TV gets wrong about dating
Discover the truth behind TV dating norms and why rushing into relationships may not be the best approach. Dive into the world of Love is Blind and The Bachelor as we explore the pitfalls of making lifelong decisions after just a few weeks of dating. Challenge the notion of instant connections and explore the benefits of slow dating. Don't let rejection on reality TV shows define your worth - you are enough. Ready to embrace a healthier approach to dating? Read on for more…
Have you diversified your dating portfolio?
Are you diversifying your dating experience? As any financial advisor will tell you - you need to have a diversified financial portfolio as you invest for the future. 💰 The same is true with dating! If you are looking to grow into a mutually beneficial relationship with someone and are only using dating apps (and then getting frustrated that they are not 'performing' well) it might be time to rethink how you are investing in your dating life!
Dating doesn’t have to feel exhausting
How many times have you heard or said, “Dating is exhausting!"? I've said it before, but I don't say it much anymore. How come? I figured out that dating doesn't have to be exhausting. (Yaaaayyyy!) If you're feeling exhausted by dating, you might be doing it wrong. Or, at the very least I can show you how to do it differently in way that doesn't feel like so much work.
Reframing rejection
I was ghosted by not one, but TWO different men yesterday! TWO! Here's what I am doing and NOT doing as a result of not hearing back from them…
What I do when I am ghosted
I was ghosted by not one, but TWO different men yesterday! TWO! Here's what I am doing and NOT doing as a result of not hearing back from them…
Did you see the viral list of places women refuse go on a first date?
Have you seen the list that is going viral of places women ‘absolutely refuse’ to go on a first date?! If you think you are a high value woman (you should, because you are), you might think that a man should show you that he thinks you are too by taking you to an interesting or expensive restaurant. But doing that is the opposite of an empowered approach to dating!
Where can I meet men offline?
I see women posting online a lot asking, “I'm tired of dating apps! Where is a good place to meet men?” I am wondering if what they actually mean is, “Where is a good place for men to meet me?” Men are all around us. They are on dating apps, at grocery stores, sporting events, dog parks, etc. But I think what a lot of women are wondering is where can I meet a man who will actually come up to me, rather than having to take the initiative to say hi and break the ice themselves. Here are my top tips!
What do you do when you can’t stop thinking about someone after a breakup?
What do you do when you can't stop thinking about someone? What do you do when you have breakup remorse wondering if you should have made a different decision? I'll tell you what doesn't work: thinking 'I shouldn't be thinking about them' or replaying ‘what if’ scenarios in your mind over and over again.
Try these tips instead.
The biggest difference between men and women dating
Here's what I think is the biggest difference between men and women who are dating: Generally speaking, most men are dating for dating. Most women are dating for a relationship. Lots of men who want to ‘get back out there’ and date after divorce or after a long-term relationship ends. This results in a series of short-term relationships and a lot of ‘dating.' Women, on the other hand, are typically dating for a ‘relationship.’ Most women are going on dates and sizing up what kind of long-term potential each person might have. Most women aren't dating just to be ‘dating.’
Are you in a relationship with someone you’re not ‘IN’ a relationship with?
Are you in a 'relationship' with someone you're not IN a relationship with? Are you texting someone regularly about kids and plans and exes, your day, their day, what you're both reading, watching or listening to, sending each other funny memes and articles you think they might be interested in… but you're not actually IN a relationship with this person? If so, why?
The Rule of 3s
My Rule of 3s goes like this: Give it three dates, three weeks and three months to see how things go with someone before you get overly attached and start planning a future together. Read on for why…!
What kind of relationship do you want?
One of the biggest mistakes I think we make in dating is thinking that everyone you connect with is looking for the same thing you are, especially if the thing you are looking for is a long-term relationship. My solution? Ask the people you are communicating with what is it they are looking for and if it's not what you're looking for you can decide to look elsewhere, no frustration required.
Don’t start at the top of the mountain
Everybody seems to want to start at the top of the mountain! How often do you meet someone and within days or weeks are thinking "He's perfect!" "He's amazing!" "We really hit it off!" "He could be the one!"
The One?!? THE ONE?!?! It’s too soon to tell!
If you’re doing that, you're starting at the top of the mountain. And when you start at the top of the mountain, the only way to go is... down.
Is your relationship (or job) complete?
How do you know when it is the right time to leave a job or a relationship? How do you give yourself permission to breakup, move on, or decide your current circumstance no longer suits you? You just decide.
Most of us are conditioned to believe we have to have a 'good reason' to make such decisions. You don't have to have a good reason to change jobs or change relationships. You can just decide that the one you are in is 'complete.'
The #1 type of person I don’t go out with
You're heard of The One Before the One? Well, I was becoming the One After the One. I learned a lot from that experience. What I have noticed is this: newly single, newly separated (or not even separated yet!) and newly divorced men are not ready to be dating. At least not in a meaningful way that might lead to a relationship. If you want to get out and have fun, go for it! If you want to date for a relationship, you need to be a little more discerning about where you spend your time.
Do you know what you are looking for in a partner and relationship?
Are you dating and looking for a partnered relationship? When you meet someone do you think “I’ll know if it’s a fit when I meet them?” If that’s the case, you’re approaching dating wrong. You need to know what you want so you know it when you see it.