What I do when I am ghosted
I was ghosted by not one, but TWO different men yesterday! (It's possible I'll hear from either guy today, but I am doubtful).
TWO!
Guy #1 I had just met for coffee earlier in the day and I thought it went fine for a first meet-up.
Guy #2 I hadn't met yet, but we had been texting off and on for a week or so.
Here's what I am NOT doing as a result of not hearing back from them:
❌ I am NOT wondering what is wrong with me
❌ I am NOT wondering if I did something wrong
❌ I am NOT replaying every interaction we had in my mind wondering if I shouldn't have said something or should have said something different
❌ I am NOT checking my phone every five minutes to see if they've messaged me
❌ I am NOT wondering what they don't like about me
❌ I am NOT worried about what this means for me and my dating life
❌ I am NOT messaging them to see if they ‘still want to connect’ or ask why they aren’t interested
Here's what I AM doing:
✅ Acknowledging that meeting people and then them sometimes falling off is just part of the process
✅ Muting notifications for both so that if they do text me I will see it when I see it and not be attached to the dopamine hit of a notification
✅ Acknowledging from the tiny bit I know about each guy that we might not have been a good fit in the long run anyway
✅ Acknowledging that it doesn't mean anything about me as a person, or me as a potential partner, if two guys I connected with on Tinder don't want to date me
✅ Moving on with my day, my work, my kids, my clients in a way that is open and loving without ruminating on ‘what went wrong’
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