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Where can I meet men offline?
I see women posting online a lot asking, “I'm tired of dating apps! Where is a good place to meet men?” I am wondering if what they actually mean is, “Where is a good place for men to meet me?” Men are all around us. They are on dating apps, at grocery stores, sporting events, dog parks, etc. But I think what a lot of women are wondering is where can I meet a man who will actually come up to me, rather than having to take the initiative to say hi and break the ice themselves. Here are my top tips!
Why working with a relationship coach is better than dating alone
What happens when you hire me as your dating & relationship coach? 💘 You have access to someone who has done a lot of dating - and coached a lot of people who are dating - and knows all the pitfalls to avoid. I'll point out the common mistakes you are making and how to get out of dating despair faster… and so much more!
My ‘Single plus’ approach to dating
When I was younger and people wanted to set me up with someone, I would always say they had to be “single, plus something else." The something else being some particular reason that this person thought we would be a good fit - not just because we're both single.
One thing that drives me crazy about online dating
One thing that drives me crazy in my online dating experience is this: having to carry the conversation with men. I recently told two men on Hinge that I liked their profiles and would be interested in connecting and chatting. One replied, “Thank you. That's so kind of you.” The other wrote, “Hi Paige!” There was no question back, no inquiry about me, no indication they wanted to have a… conversation. Here’s what I do when this happens…
Dating apps are not the problem
I hear so many people say, “I hate dating apps!” “Dating apps suck!” “All the men/women/people on dating apps suck!" I've mumbled the same thing to myself a few times over the years. Never in the history of ever has it been easier to connect with people who are looking for love (or sex, or love + sex). Dating apps are just one way to do that. Dating apps are NOT the problem. Your thinking about using them IS.
On looking for the ‘perfect’ match
One of the biggest mistakes I think women make is deciding after a couple of dates or a few months of dating that the person they are seeing is 'perfect.' But what happens next is usually heartbreak when this amazing person turns out not to be ‘perfect’ after all. What is the solution? Read on.
‘Ghosting’ is not a problem
Let's talk about 'ghosting'! Presumably everybody's least favorite part of online dating. I see so many posts of women in the different Facebook groups I am in or coaching complaining about being ghosted. I get it. It sucks.
... but does it?
Urban Dictionary describes 'ghosting' as: When a person cuts off all communication with the person they're dating, with zero warning or notice before hand. My question is: why is this a problem? Seriously.
Do you know what you are looking for in a partner and relationship?
Are you dating and looking for a partnered relationship? When you meet someone do you think “I’ll know if it’s a fit when I meet them?” If that’s the case, you’re approaching dating wrong. You need to know what you want so you know it when you see it.
Dating apps are NOT actually the worst!
Do you find yourself saying "I hate dating apps!" or "I'm so sick of dating apps!"? If you're feeling exhausted with dating apps, the apps are not the problem. The apps provide a solution. How you're thinking about them is the problem!