One thing that drives me crazy about online dating

One thing that drives me crazy in my online dating experience is this: having to carry the conversation with men.

So, I don't do it anymore.

I recently told two men on Hinge that I liked their profiles and would be interested in connecting and chatting. One replied, “Thank you. That's so kind of you.” The other wrote, “Hi Paige!”

There was no question back, no inquiry about me, no indication they wanted to have a… conversation. 

I don't plan to reply to either one.

Why? 

Because it is my hunch that this is what all of our conversations would look like. I would throw out a question or comment, they would respond, and we would do the same thing over and over again on repeat (you've been there!).

To me this is the beginning of a relationship dynamic that involves me doing all of the emotional labor (nobody wants that, ladies).

Sometimes, if i am feeling generous, I might offer a few questions to get the conversation going. Three questions max. But a lot of times I don't even do that anymore. If a grown man doesn't know how to carry on a conversation, I don't want to be the one to teach him. And I definitely don't want to start a relationship with him. 

Thank you, next.

I want to start a relationship with someone who is interested in building a relationship, too. I don't want to keep doing all of the dating rig-a-ma-roll just to keep stopping and starting over and over again. I have done a lot of dating and now I can just see the signs of what is to come so much faster. 

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