Dating can stir up all kinds of “what if” questions—What if the age gap becomes a problem? What if I never fit into his life with his kids? What if he starts drinking again?

The truth is: you don’t know, and you can’t know. Relationships don’t come with guarantees. Read on to learn how to stop overanalyzing the future and start making empowered dating decisions right now.

Rushing into relationships can lead to disappointment, stress and anxiety. Learn how slow dating can actually help you find the right match faster, build meaningful connections, and date with confidence.

Asking strangers on the internet whether you should date someone is rarely helpful. Learn why trusting your own preferences leads to healthier connections—and how to embrace them confidently—no permission from strangers on the internet required!

The first 45-90 days of dating should be about gathering information and taking things slow. Learn how to build meaningful connections by pacing yourself and focusing on what truly matters in the early stages of dating without getting overly attached too quickly.

I'm trying something new and want to invite you to try it too. I'm calling it: Very Slow Dating. What is it?! Exactly what the name says. Slowing everything way down. Not rushing in. Not getting overly excited about anyone too quickly. NOT jumping into sex and intimacy (on purpose). This is the approach I have been subtly and not so subtly preaching about for a while. Read on for how I do it…

What does it look like?  For me, it has looked this: