You can’t predict the future in dating

I see this all the time in dating—people trying to predict the future before they’ve even had a chance to spend time with someone. 

 It sounds like this:

“I met someone who’s three years sober… but what if I like him and he starts drinking again?”

“He’s ten years younger than me… is there any way this could actually work?”

“They have two grown kids, and I have none… how will that dynamic play out if we get married?”

I get it. You want to protect yourself. You want to make smart choices. You want some kind of certainty that this will be the right person for you. 

But here’s the truth: you simply can’t know.

Not right now.
Not from the first few dates.
Not from a dating profile.

Not before you've spent a good amount of quality time with someone.

Because the future is not guaranteed. And relationships aren't either. 

You don’t know if someone will relapse.
You don’t know if age will matter in a month or in a year. 
You don’t know what kind of connection you’ll build with someone’s kids, or their ex, or their how you'll fit into their life in general.

You just… don’t know until you know.

👉 So, what should you do when you don't know what to do?

✅ Date slowly. Let the other person reveal themself over time. The relationship will follow.

✅ Gather data. Pay attention to patterns, behaviors, and how they show up (or don’t) along the way. 

✅ Trust yourself. If in three months—or three years—something doesn’t feel right, you get to change course. You can always change your mind.

Stop worrying about what might go wrong in the future and instead focus on getting to know the person in front of you right now. You don’t need a crystal ball. You just need self-trust and permission to pivot when you want to. That is how you will learn if this is someone you want to keep building a relationship with—one step at a time. 

🔮 Need some help letting go of your fortune-teller tendencies?

If you’re tired of second-guessing, overanalyzing, and trying to predict the future like it’s your job… let’s talk. We’ll take a look at what's working, what's not and what you can do to set yourself up for success in the future.

You'll get honest feedback and a whole lot of clarity—no crystal ball required.

👉 Schedule your FREE Dating Breakthrough call with me today!

You don’t need to see the future—you just need to trust yourself to handle whatever comes next. 💡