How dating slow can help you find the right person faster

If you’ve been following me for a while, you know I preach the Gospel of Slow Dating.

What is it?
Slow dating is an intentional approach to dating—one that prioritizes getting to know someone before rushing into a relationship (or fantasizing about one) after just a few text exchanges or one great date.

I get it. I’ve been there! Back in my early days of online dating (shoutout to Match.com before the apps took over), I’d see someone tall-ish, Catholic, educated, and attractive and think—I could marry him! 😳

But WHAT KIND OF MADNESS WAS THAT?!? Jumping to the idea of marriage from a few pictures and words on a screen? That is CRAZY. (Don’t do this!)

But here’s the truth: That’s not a solid foundation for a relationship.

Now, I embrace slow dating, and it’s changed everything.

What Slow Dating Looks Like

Slow dating is about:
✅ Paying attention.
✅ Gathering evidence.
✅ Noticing how they show up.
✅ Learning about their life and values.
✅ Deciding what I like and don’t like.
✅ Not stressing over texts (or lack of texts).
✅ Not worrying about when (or if) they ask me out.
✅ Getting curious when something feels off—and addressing it directly.

Why It Works
This approach has saved me so much time, anxiety, and heartache. I’m calmer, more confident, and I can spot good prospects (and the bad ones) way faster.

Here’s what I know now:

• People need time to show us who they really are.

• Someone can look great on paper but not work in real life.

• A great person may not be the right person for me—and that’s okay.

Slow dating doesn’t mean wasting time—it means making better and more deliberate choices along the way. When you approach dating with curiosity instead of urgency, you can enjoy the process and create deeper, more meaningful connections.

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Are you tired of feeling anxious in dating? Let’s chat! Schedule a free call with me today, and let’s create a dating strategy that helps you feel confident and connected.