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Dating doesn’t have to feel exhausting
How many times have you heard or said, “Dating is exhausting!"? I've said it before, but I don't say it much anymore. How come? I figured out that dating doesn't have to be exhausting. (Yaaaayyyy!) If you're feeling exhausted by dating, you might be doing it wrong. Or, at the very least I can show you how to do it differently in way that doesn't feel like so much work.
Did you see the viral list of places women refuse go on a first date?
Have you seen the list that is going viral of places women ‘absolutely refuse’ to go on a first date?! If you think you are a high value woman (you should, because you are), you might think that a man should show you that he thinks you are too by taking you to an interesting or expensive restaurant. But doing that is the opposite of an empowered approach to dating!
Why you should try Very Slow Dating
I'm trying something new and want to invite you to try it too. I'm calling it: Very Slow Dating. What is it?! Exactly what the name says. Slowing everything way down. Not rushing in. Not getting overly excited about anyone too quickly. NOT jumping into sex and intimacy (on purpose). This is the approach I have been subtly and not so subtly preaching about for a while. Read on for how I do it…
What does it look like? For me, it has looked this:
Dating doesn’t have to feel ‘weird’
What is it about going on a date or meeting someone new that makes women feel nervous? What makes us question what we're wearing, where we're going, and whether or not the person we're meeting will actually like us?! Why has this become the norm? And what can we do about it? I used to get a little nervous about going on dates too. But then I realized a few things that changed my outlook altogether.
Why I don’t go on ‘first dates’ and what I do instead
I no longer think about going on a 'first date.' Why? Because first dates traditionally are filled with a nervous energy and a lot of expectations placed on how they should go and what they mean and what will happen after. After having too many disappointing Saturday night dinners out when I would rather have been home, alone, or doing something, literally anything, else, I rethought how I approached first dates. What I do instead is go on a 'meetup."