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What does it mean to be ‘selfish’?
What does it mean to be ‘selfish’? And why do you have to decide between being unselfish or allowing yourself to be ‘selfish’ once in a while? I would offer that maybe you don’t have to think about it in those terms. If you got rid of the word ‘selfish’ what would you put in its place instead?
How you think about conflict is wrong
Most people I coach (and know) say, “I hate conflict.” Conflict makes for great movie plot lines, but most of us spend a LOT of time trying to avoid conflict in real life. But… why?!?!
I'll tell you why: You think it is uncomfortable. And you think it means something bad has happened. Most of us don't want to have conflict with our friends, partners, spouse, coworkers, etc.
But what if I told you that approach might be making things worse?
Here's what happens when you avoid conflict: you also avoid connection.