Why you shouldn’t spend hours on the phone before meeting
If you’re spending hours on the phone with someone you haven’t even met yet… we need to talk.
Long phone calls with a stranger might feel like a connection, but they’re actually doing you more harm than good. 🛑
I get it. It feels exciting. You’re talking, laughing, sharing stories, maybe even getting deep. It feels like chemistry, like a real connection. But here’s the truth:
You’re not connecting with them.
You’re connecting with the idea of them.
💡 Ask yourself: How often do you spend three, four, or even five hours on the phone with your best friend or sister—people you actually know? Probably rarely, right? So why are you giving that much time to a total stranger?
The Problem With Long Phone Calls Before Meeting
When you talk for hours before meeting, you start to fill in the gaps with who you want them to be. You create an imaginary connection, and when you finally meet in person? Reality might not match the fantasy.
🚩 They might not be who you thought they were.
🚩 The in-person chemistry might be off.
🚩 Their behavior and values might not align with yours.
Instead of spending hours falling for a voice on the phone, spend time getting to know them in real life.
What to Do Instead
Next time someone suggests (or you find yourself in) a marathon phone call, try this instead:
☎️ Keep it short. Plan for 15-20 minutes which is enough to hear their voice, feel their energy, and decide if you want to meet in person. Let them know ahead of time you'll be keeping it brief.
☎️ Pay attention to how they show up. Do they ask questions? Do they listen? Are they engaged?
☎️ Save the long, deep conversations for when you’re actually building a relationship—not before you’ve even had a first date.
Let the connection unfold naturally over time. That’s the kind of chemistry that lasts.
Are You Ready to Stop Talking in Circles?
If you’re tired of wasting time on connections that don’t go anywhere, or if you’re tired of spending hours on the phone only to be disappointed later, it’s time for a new approach.
Let’s make sure your dating strategy actually leads to real, meaningful connections—not just endless conversations. ☎️ Schedule a call with me here. (And yes, we’ll keep it short and to the point 😉)
Happy Dating!
