Why I am so passionate about this work

Why do I do the work that I do? Why am I so passionate about helping women have better relationships and less frustration in dating? 

Think about how many hours you've spent over the course of your life talking to your friends, sister, mother or whoever about your lovability, your dateability, whether so-and-so is interested in you, whether you are interested in them, whether they will ask you out, whether they will text you back, whether your partner is wrong for acting a certain way, whether you're being crazy, whether your partner is being crazy, whether you're being ghosted, whether you should ghost someone else, if you're wearing the right thing, saying the right thing, thinking the right thing, and so on…

Those are the reasons. All of those things above are ways we outsource our self-worth to other people. All of those things are us asking someone else to validate what we think and feel to be true, valid and real. And all of those things keep us stuck in the relationship spin-cycle. 

And I want to teach you how to get out of the spin. 

I have been married and divorce. I've done a lot of dating. And one of the themes I notice when I look back on all of that is an exorbitant amount of anxiety related to my relationships. Or lack of relationships. Or situationships.

And in the last few years (since I was introduced to coaching), my anxiety about my relationships with other people has diminished tremendously and confidence in and comfort with myself has increased tenfold. 

I no longer get anxious if I am waiting for a text from someone I am interested in. If I have a question about the status of a relationship, I ask the person rather than conjecturing with nine of my friends. My relationship with my ex is a thousand times better than it ever was. But he didn't change. I changed. (I was recently interviewed for a podcast episode about this which will be coming out shortly.)

The people around us are going to people. We can't change that or them. But coaching has given me a way forward to be deliberate in who I spend my time with and why, and to not get anxious about what every single action and what it might mean or not mean about me or the future of our relationship. This includes my relationships with my family and friends. Or former friends, in some cases. 

I want for you what I have - the tools to better handle the uncomfortable emotions, the ability to be deliberate in how I show up in the world without fear or self-judgment, and the letting go of most of the anxiety I have had around my personal relationships. 

My mission is to help women let go of fear and frustration in dating and relationships and to settle into peaceful self-confidence knowing they will always have their own back.

Do you want that too? I am here for you!