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Dating doesn’t have to feel ‘weird’
What is it about going on a date or meeting someone new that makes women feel nervous? What makes us question what we're wearing, where we're going, and whether or not the person we're meeting will actually like us?! Why has this become the norm? And what can we do about it? I used to get a little nervous about going on dates too. But then I realized a few things that changed my outlook altogether.
On sex, pleasure and intimacy
Women have been taught conflicting things about sex. We were warned about the dangers of having sex, but also told it’s our job to attract men who want to have it with us. Women are also taught that our desire is only responsive to a man’s. And only by being desired by someone else should women feel sexual arousal of our own. Seeing your body only in service to someone else means many women don’t even know what they like or enjoy. We think we need to find the right partner to take us to the magical place of orgasm, not recognizing we can create the thoughts and feelings of sexual pleasure on our own.
The biggest difference between men and women dating
Here's what I think is the biggest difference between men and women who are dating: Generally speaking, most men are dating for dating. Most women are dating for a relationship. Lots of men who want to ‘get back out there’ and date after divorce or after a long-term relationship ends. This results in a series of short-term relationships and a lot of ‘dating.' Women, on the other hand, are typically dating for a ‘relationship.’ Most women are going on dates and sizing up what kind of long-term potential each person might have. Most women aren't dating just to be ‘dating.’
Men only want ONE thing…
Raise your hand if you've ever thought, said out loud, or heard someone say, “Men only want SEX!” I see this sentiment shared online so often and it had me wondering… so what? So what if some men are only out there looking for sex? When you get upset that someone you had sex with no longer wants to date you, you completely give up your power as a woman. As Empowered Women, we don't participate in activities with other people and then get mad at them that we participated in those activities.