Let's get right to it: If spending time with family feels challenging for you, you are not alone. If you feel like you 'have' to be there, but you don't really 'want' to be there, you are not alone.

'Tis the season for comparison and wishing we had something that other people have.

That warm, inviting family where all are welcome, and everyone gets along and enjoys each other's company.

Is that your family? It's not mine.

I do not expect a warm and Hallmark-worthy holiday because that is just not how our family operates, even in a good year.

But in the longing for something I don't have, I have an opportunity...