Are you working on healing your shit?

I shared on my socials this week that I am changing my dating profile to read, “At this point in my life I am only interested in connecting with people who are working on healing their shit.” 

I haven't officially done that yet, because I haven't been active on any apps this week although I did share that sentiment with one man I am messaging.

His response? He said he had taken the last year off from dating to "do the learn to love yourself” thing… he was working out, reading, travelling a bit, hanging out with friends, etc.

Those are all good things. Being comfortable with your own company is such an important part of being comfortable in relationship with someone else. 

But taking time off from being in a relationship is not the same as HEALING YOUR SHIT. Neither is doing yoga, taking up a musical instrument, reading a pile of self-help books, or adopting a rescue dog. They might give you endorphins and they might give you insight, but those are not the same as getting intimate with yourself in a deeply inquisitive way. 

Healing your shit involves doing the work to heal your shit. 

It means laying your guts out on the table and making sense of what is yours and what you inherited. 

It means taking responsibility for the role you played in what has happened in your life but also being deeply loving for how past you showed up along the way.

It means allowing yourself to feel ALL of your feelings. 

Healing your shit is deep, it is participatory, and you will probably feel worse before you feel better in the process. 

Healing your shit is profoundly impactful, not just for you but for all who are in relationship with you. 

Are you working on healing your shit? Are you in relationship with people who are healing theirs? 
 
I can help you with that. Let's heal together.