If you are a woman who feels anxious in dating, it's no wonder. You have been socialized for twenty, thirty, forty, fifty years to believe that your purpose in life should be to find a man to pick you. And if a man doesn't pick you, well, then… there must be something wrong with you. The Little Mermaid literally had to change everything about herself to get the guy. No wonder we feel stressed and anxious about being in a relationship.